Myth and Reality about Marriage

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MYTH: Loneliness Myth that marriage will end our loneliness.
REALITY: Many married people are still very lonely.

MYTH: Fulfillment Fallacy which makes us believe that being married
makes us complete human beings.
REALITY: A couple complements one another, not completes one another.

MYTH: Marriage Is for Everyone.
REALITY: There are a lot of unmarried people who are extremely happy.

MYTH: Monogamy Myth makes a couple believe that they are the only
ones who are dealing with infidelity or that it only happens to bad or
weak people.
REALITY: It is a societal issue that needs to be openly addressed so
that monogamy becomes more attainable for more people.

MYTH: Romance will always be alive in a good marriage.
REALITY: Nearly all relationships experience peaks and valleys. The
everyday problems and challenges of married life can often cloud over
romantic feelings. This is when making the decision to love is
important.

MYTH: Marriage makes people happy.
REALITY: We can't expect our spouse to be our one source of happiness.
Our personal happiness must come from within ourselves. Marriage can
complement our own individual happiness but it can't be the primary
source.

MYTH: We won't have major problems if we truly love one another.
REALITY: A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes nurturing and work.

MYTH: My spouse should know my needs without my saying anything.
REALITY: Just because we're married doesn't mean we can read minds. We
have to tell our spouses what our needs are.

MYTH: Conflict means a lack of love.
REALITY: Conflict happens in every marriage. Fighting fair and for the
relationship, and not just to "win" is healthy in a marriage.

We believe a marriage needs love, support, tolerance, communication,
realistic expectations, caring, nurturing, and a sense of humor to be
successful. Many of the more recent television shows like Mad About
You, Home Improvement, To Have and To Hold, The Cosby Show, Dharma &
Greg, and Everybody Loves Raymond reflect these values and show that
marriages can survive conflict, disappointment, and problems